When I was first coming up with this article, I thought I could just go on Facebook and post photos of my friends and family and be done with it.
This is one of those things where it’s really important not to be a “friend” of someone you don’t know. This is because if you start interacting with someone you don’t know, you are allowing your own insecurities to color your opinion of the person. If you start seeing other people’s opinions as you see them, then you are allowing a negative self-talk to control your behavior.
I have made a habit of not interacting with people I dont know, and one of the things that has helped me is keeping track of who I have interacted with who I have not. When I first started using Facebook, I found myself posting photos of friends, family, and colleagues that I dont know. I would check out their profiles and profiles of people I knew, and sometimes I would start to get defensive.
People with online profiles are not necessarily “social” in any conventional sense of the word. In this sense, they are simply people with whom you interacted online. However, by socializing with others whose online profiles you know, you begin to influence their behavior. This is the reason why I am so fond of keeping track of people I have interacted with. This is why I love the idea of a “self-aware person”.
There’s a difference between just “keeping track of” and actually engaging in the conversation yourself. For instance, instead of having a conversation with someone you just know, you should be interacting with yourself. If you aren’t, then you are no longer engaging with yourself, and unless you can find a way to make the conversation itself more interesting to you, then you wouldn’t be able to persuade anyone else to do the same.
So when someone says something to you that you dont like, how do you respond? I like to think I can just delete it. I dont even have to answer, I just dont have to care. I dont have to care about the person anymore, I dont have to care about the topic to which I was responding. This is why I love the idea of a self-aware person.
We’re not here to talk about politics, we’re here to talk about self-awareness. And if someone on the internet is going to tell you they don’t like something, then you have to assume they arent that self-aware, and they probably aren’t.
This is what I love about the internet. We have access to information, opinions, and other people’s thoughts all of the time. But as soon as we get to the point of talking about something that is actually an opinion, it’s either brushed off or edited to fit the story.
The problem I have with this is that all of these people who are writing about the same thing are not necessarily a part of the same conversation. But even though I don’t believe this is a problem, I still try to treat all of these people as equals. But then I realize that while I am trying to treat them as equals, it doesn’t appear that I am doing anything other than trying to push my own views on that person.
That does not make them less of a part of the conversation, but I do find it disheartening that they are not treated as equal by the people who actually are.