I’m a big fan of fulfilling our desires. I believe that we can actually achieve our goals if we want to. We are told that we have to change our habits, or we will fall behind. For example, the reason we might give ourselves a pep talk is because we know we need to do this to get out of a bad situation.
As we’ve seen in this video, this is a false dichotomy. When it comes to fulfillment, “what we want” and “what we need” are often the same thing. We want our children to get the degrees in nursing they have been working so hard to earn. We want to be able to afford our mortgage. We want to be able to pay off our credit card debt.
The most important thing is to be in a good place. If you don’t get to the top of the most important thing in a particular place, then you don’t start to grow.
What fulfillment means to a person is that they’ve been on the good life track, and what fulfillment means to a person is that they want to get to the top of the most important thing in a particular place. The very best examples of fulfillment are the biggest achievements others have been working to achieve. If you can achieve what others have been working hard for, you will have an incredible impact on society.
One of the biggest misconceptions about fulfillment is that it is not something that applies to everyone. Sure, there are people who are satisfied with just being average and who will sometimes do something for others to be satisfied with it. But anyone who can achieve just being average, or even just being happy, is going to have an incredible impact on society.
There are two sides to this. On one side, a lot of people think that their fulfillment will be the end result of other people’s work. When we say, “I’ve achieved what I’ve worked for,” we’re not saying “I’m in a good place now”; we’re saying “I’ve achieved what I worked for.
This isn’t to say that everything that you do, or even your happiness, is a fulfillment. Im sure it can be, but we are in a weird position where we are often so caught up in our own experiences that our fulfillment may not even be part of it. But we don’t want to argue with the fact that we think our happiness is our fulfillment. Happiness is a feeling, not a thing, and it is something that will come and go as we age.
Ive always thought of fulfillment as something that comes and goes. In fact, most of our happiness will come and go, it will simply evaporate, like a vapor. But we want to put a positive spin on it. So we say its fulfilling because it brings some positive things to our life, and that it is not a temporary feeling, but a lasting feeling.
This is how I see happiness. The things we do for our happiness are many and varied. Some will come and go over time, like our vacations, our relationships, our careers, our art, our hobbies. Others will come and go as we become more successful and less successful. Some will come and go as we feel we have outlived our best selves, and others will come and go as a result of a change in our life or career.
This is the life balance point. I don’t think it’s a permanent thing, but I do think it can be sustained for a long time or even permanently. This is one of those things I try to tell people when they are depressed.